Nov 09 2008
dear Bias, you’re one sneaky bastard.
“So how did you meet him?”
“A friend from work’s mother’s 50th birthday thing.”
“Wow.”
“He was so wasted when I met him.”
“You were?”
“No, he was. I’m not even sure how old he is…”
“Does he go here or to Cornell?”
“No, he went to Harvard or something. He works for a major architectural firm up here so…”
I was standing in the elevator next to this man talking about this apparently “great” guy he met at his friend from work’s mother’s 50th birthday thing when it hit me. This conversation is such bullshit.
And I’m sorry self for being this bitter but, one moment this person you are attracted to is so great and then it turns out, he actually went to Boston University or something and this “major firm” is the fifth largest contractor for midrange office depots in the Northeast. Not that there is anything wrong with BU or said architectural depot…
What I mean is, I think we easily construct a person from pixels of a conversation and create a statue. When we find our Pygmalion’s stature to be worthless, we then break it down when something awful will, or eventually does, happen.
It’s so fine, my perception. Because I thought he was amazing when we first met, and I thought our first date was so great and for one of the millions of conversations I’ve had with my mother, he was the greatest guy I knew.
And then what happened. He’s engaged to his Xbox now or, suing Bon Jovi for $400 billion. I’m just saying, I’ve made a lot of grand first impressions that were eventually tossed into the reject pile. And this denouement of last judgements was of course, based on one final event or breakup.
How can I trust anything in my life if it is so slanted by surrounding circumstances? If this bias exists forever based on my personal experiences or current events? Objectivity IS such bullshit.
